Appearance Day of Shrimati Sita-devi

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When there is prema, tolerating separation is very complicated. These things are very nicely explained in the Ramanaya and also in the Rama-charita-manasa. In the Rama-charita-manasa, it is very nicely explained, when Hanuman returned from Lanka, he brought a message back from Sita Devi. At that time, Ramachandra asked Hanuman, “Hey Hanuman. Did you see My consort Sita Devi, is she alive or has she left her body? I believe you have seen Sita Devi. But did you see her dead body or was she alive?” Then Hanuman asked Ramachandra, “Prabhu. Why did you ask this question?” “Hey Hanuman. Do you know? This is a prema-katha. If the priya and priyajana, lover and beloved or wife and husband are separated from each other, they cannot tolerate the separation from each other,” answered Lord Ramachandra.

yadi haya tāra yoga, nā haya tabe viyoga,
viyoga haile keha nā jīyaya

(Chaitanya-charitamrita Madhya 2.43)

In the Chaitanya-charitamrita, Krishnadasa Kaviraja Gosvami also explains, once the lover and beloved meet together, it is not possible to separate from each other. If they separate, they cannot survive. So the Chaitanya-charitamrita explains, ‘yadi haya yoga’. ‘Yadi haya yoga’ means, if one lover meets with the other, separation is not possible.

yadi haya tāra yoga, nā haya tabe viyoga,
viyoga haile keha nā jīyaya

They cannot tolerate or survive being separated from each other. These things are also very nicely and beautifully explained in the katha of Jayadeva Gosvami and his chaste wife Padmavati Devi. Their katha is very beautiful. Once, Jayadeva Gosvamipada went out from his house for some task. During those times, Jayadeva Gosvamipada was sabha kavi, a great poet of Lakshmana Sena. For the sake of the katha, I am telling it in this brief way; it is a very nice and beautiful story.

At the time, Jayadeva Gosvamipada, left his house for royal work. The king sent Jayadeva Gosvamipada somewhere to perform a royal task for around 3 or 4 days. During that period, Jayadeva Gosvami was not staying in his house. His chaste wife, Padmavati Devi, had so much love and affection with the queen, wife of the king, Lakshmana Sena. One time, Padmavati Devi was glorifying the meaning of  being a chaste wife. She explained to the queen, “A chaste wife cannot tolerate her husband dying. She cannot tolerate hearing this message. If she hears her husband has died, she must give up her body.” The queen became surprised upon hearing this and said, “How is this possible? Both their life airs are separate, and you are saying a chaste woman cannot tolerate separation from her deceased spouse. How can this be possible?”

Padmavati Devi then answered, “Yes, what I am saying is true. A chaste woman cannot tolerate hearing her husband has died. Because a chaste woman and her husband are each other’s life air. From such condensed love and affection, she cannot tolerate separation from her husband.” This statement caused the queen to take a moment to think. After some time, the queen replied, “Ok, Padmavati. You are always glorifying chastity…” The queen was thinking, “I will test how much love and affection you have for your husband and see how you will tolerate separation from your husband.” So what happened one day? One day, Padmavati Devi was sitting alone and the queen arrived with one message. “Come, your husband has left his body,” said the queen. She simply gave this message to Padmavati Devi.

When Padmavati Devi heard her husband, Jayadeva Gosvamipada left his body, she closed her eyes, and due to the separation from her husband, she left her body. When the queen witnessed this, she became shocked and lamented, “Oh, maybe I have committed an offense.” Then, she gave message to king, informing him of everything that just occurred. Shortly after, when Jayadeva Gosvamipada returned from his business trip, they informed him of what happened. Then, Jayadeva Gosvamipada went to the body of his deceased wife and just by placing his hand on the head of Padmavati Devi, she instantly returned back to her body. This katha shows the kind of love and affection of chaste women. There is so much love and affection between each other; their bodies may be two, but their soul is one. In this way, in our spiritual lives, it is also explained, when prema manifests, separation is very difficult.

In the Chaitanya-charitamrita, Krishnadasa Kaviraja Gosvami explained,

yadi haya tāra yoga, nā haya tabe viyoga,
viyoga haile keha nā jīyaya

If you meet with Krishna once, you will never want to be separated from Him. And if you are separated from Krishna, you cannot stay alive, you have to die. So now, the conclusion of this shlokais evident in the katha of Ramachandra and Sita Devi. As mentioned earlier, Ramachandra had just spoked this to Hanuman, “Hanuman. How can Sita Devi possibly survive separation from Me? She must give up her body. Because during separation from Me, even My father, Dasharatha Maharaja left his body.” When Ramachandra left Ayodhya, exiled in the forest, Dasharatha Maharaja could not tolerate the separation from Lord Ramachandra. Dasharatha Maharaja uttered, “Ha Rama, Ha Rama, Ha Rama,” and then left his body. Ramachandra continued, “Even My father could not tolerate being separated from Me. How possibly, can My wife, Sita Devi, tolerate being separated from Me. How can she survive?” For this regard, Ramachandra asked Hanuman, “Hanuman have you seen My wife, Sita Devi’s dead body or is she alive?” At that time, Hanuman very nicely spoke these things,

nāma pāharū divasa nisi dhyāna tumhāra kapāṭa,
nija pada locana jaṁtrita jāhiṃ prāna kehi bāṭa

(Rama-charita-manasa, Sundarakanda)

[“Your name, said Hanuman, is the watchman who guards her by day and night; her contemplation of You is the gate; her eyes fixed on Your feet are the fetters; through what door, then, can her life flit away?”]

Tulasi dasa in Rama-charita-manasa, very nicely explained how Sita Devi protected her life air and kept it inside her body. Hanumanji very sweetly explains in this Hindi verse poem. What is he saying?

nāma pāharū divasa nisi dhyāna tumhāra kapāṭa,
nija pada locana jaṁtrita jāhiṃ prāna kehi bāṭa

Hanumanji said, “Hey, my Master Lord Ramachandra, You know everything. But, according to the teaching of others, loka shiksha, I will answer You. Sita Devi cannot actually survive and maintain her life air in her body. She wants to give up her body, she wants to die, but it is not possible for her to do so. Why? ‘Nāma pāharū divasa nisi’ – mother Sita Devi is always chanting Your sweet name – Ra – Ma, rama-nama. Actually, the two security guards there are named Ra and Ma, and these two securities are guarding the life air of mother Sita Devi. So, ‘nāma pāharū divasa nisi’ – Sita Devi is day and night chanting rama-nama. She is chanting rama-nama, Rama, which also means Ra and Ma, the two security guards, and they are guarding Sita Devi’s life air.”

Hanuman continued, “So ‘nāma pāharū’, pāharū means security guard. ‘Dhyāna tumhāra kapāṭa’ – what is Sita Devi’s mind doing? Mediating on You. ‘Dhyāna tumhāra kapāṭa ‘- kapāṭa means door, which also keeps Sita Devi’s life air from escaping her body.

nāma pāharū divasa nisi dhyāna tumhāra kapāṭa,
nija pada locana jaṁtrita jāhiṃ prāna kehi bāṭa

‘Nija pada locana’ – Sita Devi’s eyes are completely concentrated on the lotus feet of Lord Ramachandra. This is the lock on the door. With these three security measures in place – how can Sita Devi’s life air possibly exit her body? How can you enter a house with three security systems or three obstacles? First, there are two gate keepers. After the gate keepers, there is one big phataka. Phataka means door. Then, the door is also protected by a lock.  Meaning, Sita Devi wants to give up her life air. But by chanting rama-nama, meditating her mind on the Lord, and concentrating her eyes on the lotus feet of Lord Ramachandra, Sita Devi was unable to give up her life air.

Tulasi dasa explains this concept in this way,

nāma pāharū divasa nisi dhyāna tumhāra kapāṭa,
nija pada locana jaṁtrita jāhiṃ prāna kehi bāṭa

How could Sita Devi’s life air possibly escape her body? Which way would it exit? So, the conclusion is, once a lover meets with beloved, it is impossible for them separate. Uddhava elaborated on this tattva siddhanta also,

viraheṇa mahā-bhāgā
mahān me ’nugrahaḥ kṛtaḥ

(Shrimad-Bhagavatam 10.47.27)

[“O most glorious gopīs. Indeed, by exhibiting your love for Kṛṣṇa in separation from Him, you have shown me great mercy.”]

Uddhava spoke these things, actually, it was Yogamaya who manifested on the tongue of Uddhava when he told the gopis, “You are saying, ‘Viraheṇa mahā-bhāgā’. Hey Vraja-devi-gana, this is your viraha, separation from Krishna, this is not true. Through your viraha mood, you are just showing how much love and affection you have with Krishna. So when you are saying, ‘Viraheṇa mahā-bhāgā mahān me ’nugrahaḥ kṛtaḥ.’ You are only mercifully showing me what kinds of love and affection you have towards Krishna.” As I mentioned earlier, during the time of viraha, separation, you cannot measure what kinds of love and affection you have towards your ishtadeva, your worshipable deities. When meeting with your ishtadeva, you will not be able to measure the amount of love and affection. Krishna, Himself shared this katha with the gopis. He said, “Yathā dūra-care preṣṭhe.” Once a chaste lady will always remember her husband during the time of their separation. In this way, during viraha, separation, both are actually meeting each other. This means, the viraha, separation, creates and supplements the meeting. Try to understand this.

Jai Sita Devi ki Jai

Jai Bhagavan Ramachandra ki Jai

Gaura Premanande, Hari, Haribol

Transcriber: Sanatan das (USA)

Editors: Sanatan das (USA), Divya Premamayi dasi (Slovakia)

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